Hello and blessings,
First of all, I wish for you to build your home with joy and a happy heart.
May I suggest a different way of thinking?
Let go of the “grudge“.
Let go of any attempt to allow your ex to continue controlling you—even in your memories.
Because in reality, what you are doing to yourself is a continuation of that unhealthy relationship.
Instead, invest in building your current relationship.
Learn together how to resolve arguments and misunderstandings, how to break out of the “stuck” feeling you are experiencing, and how to move forward together.
And it is possible that he simply is not the right one for you—in which case, it would certainly be right to find someone else.
Wishing you a joyful holiday and a good year full of new opportunities.
Yuval Cherlow
Rabbi Cherlow is the Head of the Ethics Department at the Tzohar Rabbinical Organization.
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This question was originally published on the Kipa website.
