Hello,
This is the time to go to couples therapy.
This is the time to open these gates.
It is possible that he is addicted.
It is possible that he is blind to the significance of a marital relationship.
It is possible that you haven’t yet found the way to extract him from there.
But it cannot go on like this.
For you yourself wrote this – you are losing hope, and when hope doesn’t exist, the possibility is locked away.
Therefore,
Reach an agreement to go together and put in the effort.
It is possible that this could really bring out the best.
All the best and a joyous and harmonious marriage,
Yuval Cherlow
Rabbi Cherlow is the Head of Ethics at the Tzohar Rabbis Organization
For additional reading:
- Honoring Parents and Sharing with Your Fiancé
- My Wife Wants to Recycle and In My Opinion It is Useless. Who is Right?
This responsa was first published on Kipa website.